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I used to be under confident in social situations. People would never believe I used to doubt myself so much I literally had to learn confidence until it became a natural part of me. I can tell you relaxed optimistic confidence is much more fun. These seven ways will make difference to your confidence level. First of all, it's important to get a clear idea of what self confidence really means, otherwise you won't know when you've got it! So, self confidence means:
Being calm
For every situation in life you need to run on the appropriate level of emotion. Too much emotional ‘leakage’ into a situation can spoil it. You make great strides towards confidence when you begin to relax in a greater range of situations.Being cool
The 2nd part of self confidence is about being able to relax with uncertainty. To be ‘cool’ in a situation really means relaxing with not knowing how things will pan out. If you truly tolerate uncertainty, you can do pretty much anything.Not being too concerned with what others think of you
You may imagine what some place may like before you go there but when you get there it is totally different to your imagination? That’s how reliable your imagination is! Stop trusting your imagination so much. I’ve long since stopped bothering to imagine what others think of me because so often I've turned out to be wrong.Being specific - where do you want confidence?
‘Confidence’ is meaningless until you tie it to something specific. You are already confident that you can read these words or can switch a light on and off. So you don’t need more confidence everywhere. To get what you want in life you have to establish exactly what do you want. Where do you want confidence in your life? Think about the specific situations now and write them down. You beginning to steer your brain towards confidence.Understanding that what you expect is what you get
Your brain is an organ that needs clear goals to work towards. When a task has been set in your brain it will do everything it can do to bring about the completion of that task. If you’ve tried to recall someone’s name but can’t, hours later you’ll often find their name pops into your head. The ‘trying to recall’ experience set the task or blueprint for your brain’s future subconscious behaviour which eventually produced the name for you - when you weren’t thinking about it consciously. You can use this natural mechanism to start feeling more confident. But, to ensure you set the right task for your subconscious mind, the next point is vital.Don’t task your mind with negatives
Instead of try this, 'I don’t want to screw up' (which sets the task of ‘screwing up’ for your brain), set the blueprint for what do you want! Your brain doesn’t work towards what to do by being told what not to do. And nature has given you a wonderful natural tool to set the right task blueprints with.Use nature's goal-setter
Now you understand how vital it is to set the right task for you brain, you need to know how to do this reliably. Good hypnosis will strongly ‘program’ the right blueprint in your mind through the use of your imagination. If you powerfully imagine feeling confident and relaxed while in a relaxed hypnotic state, it will be hard for your unconscious mind to do anything else. The blueprint for relaxation has been set firmly into your subconscious mind.To receive updates on new articles, subscribe to Dew Drop Of Jupiter
